Monday, October 11, 2010
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Sunday, October 10, 2010
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Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
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Friday, October 8, 2010
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PUNCA MATA ROSAK
Pernahkah anda mengalami masalah penglihatan tengah yang kabur? Tidak cukup dengan itu, garisan yang lurus pula kelihatan bengkang-bengkok dan tidak lama selepas itu, anda mula menyedari anda cuma bergantung kepada penglihatan sisi.
Merokok memang sangat kerap dikaitkan dengan pelbagai komplikasi kesihatan. Kajian mendapati golongan perokok mempunyai risiko diserang AMD sebanyak empat kali ganda berbanding mereka yang tidak merokok. Malah kes AMD dikesan antara dua hingga tiga kali ganda lebih banyak di kalangan perokok. Ringkasnya, lebih banyak merokok maka lebih besar risiko diserang AMD.
Pakar Bedah Mata, Dr Ahmad Fauzi Md Sharif, berkata secara umumnya AMD adalah penyakit yang berkaitan dengan penuaan. Ia memusnahkan pandangan tengah mata dan menyebabkan pandangan anda tidak setajam dulu. Pandangan tengah mata diperlukan bagi membolehkan kita melihat objek dengan jelas. Antara tugas harian yang memerlukan penglihatan tengah mata adalah membaca dan memandu.
Bagaimanapun, kebanyakan orang tidak menyedari mereka berhadapan dengan AMD. Ini kerana AMD tidak menyebabkan sebarang kesakitan. Malah dalam sesetengah kes ia terjadi perlahan-lahan sehinggakan anda merasakan AMD itu sebahagian daripada perkara wajib apabila usia meningkat tua.
Namun, menurut bekas pensyarah Pusat Perubatan Universiti Malaya (PPUM) ini, ada juga kes AMD berlaku dengan cepat dan menyebabkan penglihatan tengah kedua-dua belah mata terjejas.
“AMD lazimnya berlaku pada usia 50 tahun ke atas. Walaupun ia bukanlah faktor yang boleh menyebabkan buta sepenuhnya tetapi ia menjejaskan kualiti kehidupan.
“Satu ketika dulu, AMD dianggap penyakit orang barat tetapi kajian terbaru yang dikeluarkan Mei lalu mendedahkan orang Asia juga cenderung diserang AMD.
“Kajian di lima negara Asia iaitu Jepun, China, Korea Selatan, India dan Singapura mengesahkan kekerapan orang Asia berhadapan dengan peringkat awal AMD ialah 6.8 peratus manakala AMD tahap akhir pula 0.56 peratus berbanding 8.8 peratus dan 0.59 peratus di barat. Kebanyakan mereka yang diserang AMD berusia antara 40 hingga 79 tahun,” katanya.
Ketua Pusat Penyelidikan Mata PPUM, Prof Madya Dr Fong Choong Sian, pula berkata, makular itu merujuk bahagian di tengah retina dan ia sejenis tisu yang sensitif pada cahaya dan terletak di belakang mata. Umumnya retina dengan pantas menukarkan cahaya atau imej kepada ‘impulse’ atau isyarat elektrik. Retina kemudian menghantar isyarat saraf itu ke otak.
Bagi kes AMD, sel yang rapuh itu rosak atau tidak lagi berfungsi. Ada dua jenis AMD yang dirujuk sebagai AMD Basah dan AMD Kering. AMD Basah terjadi apabila salur darah baru tumbuh di belakang retina dan disebabkan sifatnya yang rapuh, ia mudah berdarah atau tercalar yang menyebabkan penglihatan terjejas.
AMD Basah terjadi dengan cepat dan ada kalanya sebagai tidak balas pada rawatan peringkat awal. Dalam keseluruhan pesakit AMD, hanya 10 peratus saja yang dikesan dengan masalah ini.
Jelas Prof Fong, AMD Kering merujuk keadaan yang biasa dikesan di kalangan pesakit AMD. Ia berlaku perlahan-lahan hingga akhirnya pesakit hilang penglihatan tengah.
“Kebanyakan orang mula mendapatkan rawatan selepas penglihatan tengahnya kabur, apabila melihat sesuatu yang berwarna ia kelihatan kelabu atau luntur. Namun dalam kedua-dua jenis AMD ini ia boleh menjejaskan kedua-dua belah mata walaupun awalnya ia dikesan pada sebelah mata saja,” katanya.
Di Asia katanya, kebanyakan pesakit yang dikesan dengan AMD adalah mereka yang berhadapan dengan AMD Kering. Jelasnya lagi, AMD boleh diklasifikasikan pada tahap awal, pertengahan, tahap lanjutan non-neovaskular dan tahap lanjutan neovaskular.
“Bagi AMD peringkat awal, proses pesakit hilang penglihatan selalunya bermula agak perlahan dan tiada simptom. Namun ada juga kes AMD awal yang mempunyai gejala seperti penglihatan kabur, gagal menyesuaikan penglihatan dari tempat gelap ke tempat terang dan memerlukan cahaya lebih terang untuk membaca tulisan kecil,” katanya.
FAKTA: Tahap-tahap AMD
iii) AMD peringkat lanjutan bukan neovaskular (pembuluh darah liar) dan neovaskular. Bukan neovaskular membabitkan kes-kes AMD yang kering manakala neovaskular membabitkan AMD basah.
Faktor risiko yang tidak boleh dikawal
Faktor boleh dikawal
Rawatan
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